I have been married to a doc for 31 years and just found out about an "emotional affair" that went on for 15 years she is a nurse. Am I sure I can handle the lifestyle. I hate that it's all on his terms.
Even after that, the Church discourages youth from entering serious relationships before they are considering marriage. She never mentioned TSCC. He totally blew me off and said "blah blah blah" and it was so early in our relationship that I was taken aback and didn't push the issue then and there.
The church really needs to tailor to more partial LDS families, imho. I wouldn't end a relationship with her, just as I wouldn't deny someone a job, or refuse to socialize with someone who is a Mormon. Yes, do sever the relationship. This always seemed terribly wrong to me. I've already approached him like a million times to ask why he has been distant with me but now I'm realising it's his work load but he doesn't want to admit it's a lot for him. The man presides over everything. My seminary teacher went off on me about dating a non Mormon when I was talking about going to his prom. As for me, I recall spending a lot of Sundays at sporting events with my dad. If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them.
We have a strong relationship, so I am lucky - but lately the demands of family are becoming a bit too much to handle - and I really don't know how to 'deal' with my inlaws and 'sharing' my husband with them. Honestly, it isn't her fault. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. When I see my boyfriend hard at work, it also inspires me to improve and challenge myself in my own way. I'd just like to add that unless you're happy being with her as a full believing Mormon, don't stick around in the hopes that she'll de-convert. I am literally too lazy to get up and get the computer. Just an idea, I have no idea what would actually work for her. I am married to an OB physician 10 years. This has led to more arguments than ever before and I feel so alone This is all very helpful.
