I was sure I was just over sensitive until I read your posts. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Edited 1 time s. Ask her right out if she is at all interested in leaving TSCC. The misogyny is deep in the Mormon church. You will have to make sacrifice your happiness a little. It was totally eye-opening. Like many Docotors wives, Our husbands have a demanding career. I had many extremely hurtful things said to me, along with an intervention hosted by my married-in-the-temple-and-divorced grandmother. I am in relationship with my fiance for almost a year.
I was scared to bring it up and make it seem like a demand or ultimatum, so I think I will approach him in the way you described. It sure has its ups and downs. The ones who already had concerns start questioning. He came to bed at 1: I don't know if I can make this work. She sounds so indoctrinated that like even if you try to get her to open up, who knows you might get like a BJ out of it doesn't sound like it but who knowsyou have to realize that a lifetime of conditioning will be set in motion in her mind that will make your life hell. I don't think you necessarily need to cut ties with her. You should take your cues from your partner, not from documentaries or this sub, on whether your partner's views and actions are manipulative, brainwashy and damaging. I think we need to steer far away from medicine…. In the meantime, she will probably view you as being less than a Mormon man who is a faithful priesthood holder. So I feel like we have to wait yet another year just for the daunting part of it to start.
It is highly likely that she will pressure you to convert, and if you resist, she may resent you for being the barrier to her being sealed to her children. A lot of people will tell you to run but if she is in her late 20s most Mormon guys her age are married. Catholics basically married catholics and protestants basically married protestants. Salaries for doctors are declining, with my boyfriend telling me that some nurses now make more than the lowest paid medical specialty - pediatrics. I can't take it. The day could come where she has to decide between her relationship with you and her church.
Talk about issues with Jehovah's Witnesses etc. Either it's enough for you - or it's not. Who knows, but I think it was especially hard for the moms of young men.